Music Therapy with Miss Moon

" Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your won presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement."
~ Alice Koller

" The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself."
~ Michel de Monaigne

" It is only alone, truly alone what one burst apart, springs forth."
~ Maria Isabel Barreno

I am a woman who has no problems having only herself for company. In fact, I rather enjoy my own company... I'm awesome! When I'm asked, "Doesn't being alone so much make you feel sad or lonely?", I reply that being alone can definitely make one sad. Being solitary? Not so much! I've learned that I need moments of solitude from time to time.... It's a Scorpio thing, I think! LOL

I've become a much more social creature lately and I've been out and about with friends much more. And now that I've reentered the dating scene, I've gone out more in the past few months than I had in the previous year! Because I've been more social and active and a part of the world, it's become much for pertinent  for me to take time out for myself. To refuel, recharge, zone out, laugh, create, think, daydream... anything my heart desires.

For today's song choice for Music Therapy with Miss Moon, I picked a song from the one and only Erykah Badu that I think should be the anthem for being solitary. If you've been craving some alone time with your thoughts, I sincerely hope that "Vibrate On" will motivate you to do it.. soon!



Hey...
Hey, Hey...

Oh Let me know, let me know, let me knw, there she go.

They knew I was gangsta, When I hit the door.
I was hurting them baby, it was pitiful.
Everything I was doing, was their favorite thing.
What's your number, what's your name -- like all night long.

They on--
But I'm long gone, at home with the vibrate on...my phone.
Because I rather be left alone...a-lone.

Got no money for Spirits, so I contemplate.
Gonna drink me some water, and get over it.
Plus I'm running a fever, 'cause I'm getting sick.
Of what's your number, what's your name, like all night long.

They on--
But I'm long gone, at home with the vibrate on...my phone.
'Cause I rather be left alone...all night long. They on--
But I'm long gone, at home with the vibrate on...my phone.
'Cause I rather be left alone...oh

Wanna Be

My pistol is loaded, and my tank is full.
My cup runneth over, I'm in Hollywood.
It's 2 in the morning, just another day, for what's your number, what's your name -- damn, all night long.

They On--
But I'm long gone, at home with the vibrate on...my phone.
'Cause I rather be left alone...

Music Therapy with Miss Moon

“ Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”
~ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

" You protect your being when you love yourself better. That's the secret. "
~ Isabelle Adjani

" You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection."
~ Buddha

I used to be the kind of girl who HATED Valentine's Day when I was single. Back then, the day served as a  reminder of how painfully alone (I thought) I was... But as I got older, I realized that it could be a great opportunity to lavish myself with love, and what could be better than giving and getting love?

When you are your own personal Valentine... you know you'll be getting exactly what you want with no strings attached. And you know that the gift will be appreciated and valued with no regret or disappointment. For this year, some friends and I will be going to dinner and a movie. We've decided to make ourselves and each other our Valentines!

So this week's song choice for Music Therapy with Miss Moon is a very special Valentine's Day shout out to all of us. Dedicate this song to yourself and sing along if you know you are loved!!! I hope you all will enjoy "Video" by India.Arie.



Sometimes I shave my legs and sometimes I don't
Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I won't
Depend on how the wind blows I might even paint my toes
It really just depends on whatever feels good in my soul

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be the india arie

When I look in the mirror and the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it's supposed to be
And I know our creator didn't make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my lips, my eyes; I'm lovin' what I see

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be the
india arie

Am I less of a lady if I don't wear pantyhose?
My mama said a lady ain't what she wears but, what she knows
But, I've drawn a conclusion, it's all an illusion, confusion's the name of the
game
A misconception, a vast deception
Something's gotta change
but,Don't be offended this is all my opinion
ain't nothing that I'm sayin law
This is a true confession of a life learned lesson I was sent here to share with
y'all
So get in where you fit in go on and shine
Clear your mind, now's the time
Put your salt on the shelf
Go on and love yourself
'Cuz everything's gonna be all right

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I Learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be the india arie

Keep your fancy drinks and your expensive minks
I don't need that to have a good time
Keep your expensive car and your caviar
All I need is my guitar
Keep your Kristal and your pistol
I'd rather have a pretty piece of crystal
Don't need your silicone I prefer my own
What God gave me is just fine

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be india arie

Music Therapy with Miss Moon

" Every rejection is incremental payment on your dues that in some way will be translated back into your work."
~ James Lee Burke

" Life's blows cannot break a person whose spirit is warmed at the fire of enthusiasm."
~ Norman Vincent Peale

" Do not waste yourself in rejection; do not bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

" In so far as one denies what is, one is possessed by what is not, the compulsions, the fantasies, the terrors that flock to fill the void."
~ Ursula K. Le Guin

"Boy, am I GLAD for that CRUSHING rejection!" Said no one. Ever. In this lifetime, as well as the rest of time! Rejection sucks. Period.

I recently went on a job interview that really changed my attitude about rejection and about the disappointment that generally comes along with it. The day before, I received an email expressing interest in my application, along with an invitation to come to their offices the next morning to discuss the position. I immediately emailed a response, expressing gratitude for their interest, confirmed my attendance and quickly readied myself for the next day's interview.

This generally means taking off my usual blue nail polish in favor of one more interview-friendly, ironing my interview clothes and making sure I have copies of my resume and references printed out. 

The next day, I got up, showered, got dressed and shelled out $2.25 on my Metrocard to make it to their Lexington Avenue offices. When I walked in to greet the woman I was scheduled to meet with, I got the immediate "needle scratch" vibe from her. The look on her face spoke volumes. I was obviously not who she thought would accompany my resume. Whether it's my race, my size, my appearance, I don't know. And frankly, I don't care.

I traveled 45 minutes to get to the interview a few minutes early and ended up spending a total of 12 minutes in which I spoke briefly about my experience and my background. I've had enough experience with interviews to recognize that 12 minutes is not sufficient time to get to know a candidate, and that her decision to speak so briefly further illustrated her decision I was not her ideal choice. Despite her total disinterest, I sat in the chair with my back straight and head held high, and used my 12 minutes to speak about what would make me an ideal candidate. I knew it was like speaking to a brick wall, but I made the conscious choice to continue, if only to affirm my strengths in my own voice so that it's heard and sent out there into the Universe. 

I am creative, hard-working, fun, and will be a very valuable asset to some lucky company someday soon. I hope that the company I interviewed with finds what they were looking for, as I know I will find the right opportunity for myself.

When I made it home (Another $2.25 on the Metrocard and another 45 minutes on the train), I sent the woman I interviewed with a thank you email, expressing gratitude. Frankly, I wasn't grateful for her rudeness, I was grateful for her being the conduit of an important life lesson. I sent the email with the vow that a) If I'm ever in the position to have to interview an employee, I will always remember that they invested time and money for the interview and should be treated with grace as a result, and b) that I am a kick ass employee and I will put my creativity and drive into the best suited position for me!!

I celebrated this newly rediscovered affirmation of my own awesomeness with today's song pick for Music Therapy with Miss Moon. The song is a rejection anthem in terms of romance, but I think it can apply to any situation where you feel rejected, and not respected. I hope you all will join me in head banging and fist pumping to "I Love Myself Today", by Bif Naked.



You left me like a broken doll
In pieces as I took the fall
for you, you dumb chump!
You left me free-falling like space junk
Burning up in the atmosphere of life

Well I sound like a philosopher
but I'm a fool who's off her rocker
'Cause I let you in my heart that one last time

I've had enough, made up my mind
I'm gonna get up and out and wahhh!

I love myself today
Not like yesterday
I'm cool, I'm calm
I'm gonna be okay! Uh huh
I love myself today
Not like yesterday
Take another look at me now
'Cause it's your last look
Your last look forever

Well look at you you're all puffed up
In that big red truck- but you're outta luck (this time)
Well, that's tough
'Cause I'm on fire- too hot to touch
with a chatroom full of lovers on the line
Gonna step right up. Spit shine my soul
I'm gonna be proud and loud and outta control!

I love myself today
Not like yesterday
I'm cool, I'm calm
I'm gonna be okay! Uh huh
I love myself today
Not like yesterday
Take another look at me now
'Cause it's your last look
Your last look forever

I'm lookin' in the mirror and I like what I see:
I've lost the fear and the horror that's been eating at me
'Cause being with you is like a hangman's noose
I was living my life in dead man's shoes

I've had enough. Made up my mind
I'm gonna get up and out and wahhh!

I love myself today
Not like yesterday
I'm cool, I'm calm
I'm gonna be okay! Uh huh
I love myself today
Not like yesterday
Take another look at me now

I love myself today
Not like yesterday
You're dead and gone
I'm gonna get my way
I love myself today
Not like yesterday
Take another look at me now
'Cause it's your last look
Your last look forever!!

I love myself today 
I love myself today
I love myself today
I love myself today
I love myself today
I love myself today
I love myself today